Relationship difficulties

We can think deeply about you in your relationships. When difficulties arise, we play our part.

How do your early experiences continue to affect you?

How are you getting in your own way?

Why did you choose your partner?

Explore how to live more consciously.

Learn how to achieve more freedom & peacefulness in your life.

Trauma: when we fear we may not survive.

This is why we push unbearable feelings back into our body. Why we build defences to stop us feeling.

But we're driven to heal ourselves.

So we go looking for a drama to activate our repressed feelings. And we repeat patterns in our relationships.

As we grow, our self-created protection system gets out of date. It feels increasingly self-destructive and dysfunctional. It holds us back.

We realise we want to stop communicating through symptoms, acting out and unhealthy addictions.

If we can trust our own wisdom, we seek help. In trauma therapy we help people to upgrade their protection systems. We can't change the past, but we can make peace with it. Then we can make the progress we want to.

This is a a courageous journey into your inner world. It takes time and usually needs open-ended therapy.

Infertility & Trauma

I work with women with medically unexplained infertility.

Adverse events in childhood including neglect, abuse and family difficulties affect fertility.

We focus on what you've come to believe from others about your body and your own self-worth. We look at who you became, growing up in your family and in your relationships.

Our protection systems are threatened when we can't get pregnant & we head for the IVF clinic, as a rational solution.

But we're carrying deeply repressed anxieties. These take time and a strong, trusting relationship to untangle.

Our work is to build a stronger sense of you, to help you to build your family your way, be a mother or make different choices.